Where is this magic button?
It is in you. To be more specific, it is in your thoughts and behavior. But why do I say behavior? How else can you become of a president of America if your current character is callous?
Your desires should be in line with your thoughts. I mean, you have a desire of spending the rest of your life sailing around the world in an ultra modern luxury ship or yacht but you contemplate getting caught in a storm while sailing, you won't attract your desire.
Oh, on the other hand, if you persist with catastrophic contemplation, you might actually experience it in your life. So, be ware of your thoughts. You may get it after all.